I always say to people, even if someone has hurt you, or taken advantage of you please continue live with as much integrity as you can. Carry on being the good person that you are. Be pleased that you have set good personal values, and stay strong in those values. And please carry on doing good for others anyway. Because one person is simply not enough to stop you on your journey. And at the end of the day it is not that person who will be judging you. Only you know the true extent of your journey and what you have been through, and it is an important journey.I love this quote:“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
― Mother Teresa
Personal true experiences that made me aware of the importance of this:
I used to work in a Nursing Home. One night I was on a relieving shift in a part of the hospital that I had never worked in before. I was on the afternoon shift and was to knock of at 11pm. I was doing the last rounds of the ward when I heard a desperate voice call out “Miss,Miss, please come here Miss!”.
I went into the room to find a rather tough looking gentleman crying. He had a terminal illness and these were his last days. In his despair he spilt his life story out to me. He had not been a good man, he had hurt and caused great pain to many people. He told me he used to beat his wife up, and thought nothing of it at the time. His family had abandoned him, and now in his final hours he was all alone.
I believe this was one of those “meant to be” moments, because as he was talking a Man appeared in the Room in Spirit. It turned out to be his brother whom had passed over years before him. I relayed any messages I could get to this man, and it calmed him down a bit, but not completely.
The good thing was that I knew his brother had come to get him. The thing that struck me however, was the overwhelming regret and despair of this man, he kept saying to me “it’s too late now, if I could go back and change everything, I would”, as the tears rolled down this man’s face. The pain he had caused others was now his own pain, and he was just so, so regretful. Now this was a tough looking, fully tattoo clad, well weathered man, we are not talking frail old man here, as he was only in his 60’s.
I said a prayer and sent him a blessing, as I knew it was the first and last time I would see him. (I ended up in tears too). That night I realized that I never ever want to be in that position, of when it is my time to meet my maker that I have such regrets. I want to look back over my life, and be able to truly say, “I did my very best”.
We are very lucky to have the awareness these days, and many chances to change our ways, break cycles and do good. No matter if your the the interrogator or the victim, we can all heal. In doing so makes our transition into the light so much easier…..